If your marriage is on the brink of divorce and you are looking for ways to save your marriage, this article may offer some helpful and friendly advice. It is all too common for marriages to fail simply because one or both parties are bored in the marriage and the sparks simply go out. In this article, I outlined 7 ways you can save your marriage and get out of the marriage routine, and I hope they are helpful to you and yours.
Have a weekly date night. If your budget is tight, don’t worry. If you have children, ask a church member or family member to care for them for you. Just stay home and enjoy game night. Play checkers, Sorry, Battleship or any game you like. If the weather is nice, play outside.
Design a room in your home to be a quiet room. If you don’t have a room in your house that is clutter-free, then spend time together to make a room in your house clutter-free. Spend about 15 minutes a day in this quiet room. Feeling relaxed and calm will not only help you, but it will also help your marriage.
Write a love letter to your spouse and mail it (preferably the next day with USPS). Also do not put a return address. Write a letter telling your spouse how in love you are with him. Think about all the things about your spouse that you loved when you first met and discuss them in the letter. When you’re done, simply mail the letter and wait for their response. You will be amazed at what that letter can do to save your marriage.
Take time one night to plan for your future together. Talk about what each of you wants in life and make a plan of action to achieve these plans. Then take a look at where you are in your life and how you can help your partner get where he wants to go. As Zig Ziglar says, “You can have anything you want in life, if you help other people enough to get what they want.”
Spend at least 10 minutes a day with your spouse and talk about your day together. Make this a habit. Do not go to bed together until this has been accomplished. It doesn’t have to be a bummer. You can make it fun. Go for a walk together, talk over dinner, watch the sunset (or sunrise). But spend 10 minutes a day with your partner and watch your marriage grow. You will be glad you did.
Do something new every day. It could be as simple as taking a new route to work, cooking a new dish, watching a new TV show together, planting some flowers. These simple little things will make your day different and help you get out of the routine of marriage. And don’t forget the flowers. Buy flowers for your spouse (men too). A simple $ 7.00 bouquet of flowers will make your spouse feel appreciated and special, so why not?
The seventh way to save your marriage and get out of the marriage routine I learned from an elder in my church. Here’s what he said … “Find out all the things he likes … and do them all. Then find out the things he doesn’t like … and don’t do any.” It sounds so simple, but it is so true. Chances are, after being married for several years, you have developed habits that your spouse does not like. Over time, this will put your spouse down and he or she will think less of you and be less attracted to you. That’s one area of marriage you don’t want to be in, I can assure you. So stop doing the things your spouse doesn’t like and do a lot of the things your spouse likes.
