Are you waiting for others to make a move so that you can make a move? If you are, it means that you are playing a game of chess and you are waiting for your opponent to move his knight so that you can then checkmate. However, if you are not playing chess, then there is no reason to put your life on hold because you are waiting for someone to make a move towards you or your life. One of the biggest reasons for resentment in any type of relationship is the sacrifice that an individual makes for the family, for their spouse, partner or for a job and not getting anything in return. We hear half-truths, empty promises, innuendo, and then we get our hopes up about expectations.
Now, what happens when we realize that those promises were empty? Your hopes and dreams crash violently to the ground, where they are shattered. Now you are left with a series of questions: why, why, why? You start to go crazy wondering what happened and when that question is not answered, you start to lose your mind wondering how people can treat others with such little consideration.
Now here’s the hard truth and believe me I have had a hard time swallowing. The harsh truth is that if someone can get away with walking in and out of their life and doing what they please knowing that they are not going anywhere, they will take advantage of their free time. You have a lot of free time on your hands if someone can come in and out of your life whenever they want and you keep withdrawing it with whatever new excuse of the day they give you. I bet you if you were busy in your life and doing it, others couldn’t hijack your precious time. Because when you have some free time in your busy life, you will save it preciously.
Now you may be saying that it is selfish not to be for others and you will be right. However, it is also selfish not to be for yourself. I have learned that the hard way. He was always doing it for everyone and everyone was quite happy with it. I put my life on hold to be for others, while those others were happily being for themselves and happily taking and taking and taking something else from me without ever thinking about the sacrifices I made for them. They treated me horribly because I was so “doing it for them”. The moment I realized how much of myself I had sacrificed over the years and how many of my dreams I had left on hold for others and began to be for myself, the knives, the axes became sharpened and the blows began to strike. arrive quickly. But I have made a promise to myself that I will never again sacrifice my life, waiting and doing for others and putting my life and my dreams on hold.
The thing is, while you put your life on hold waiting for others, they are happy in their lives knowing that you are there when they are ready to use it or wipe their dirty feet on you. Worse still when they laugh at you and your supposed “stagnant life”. They don’t even realize that your life is stagnant because you were doing it for them. What is worse, they will throw in your face that they never asked you to do anything.
There is nothing more rewarding than living your life for yourself, no matter how many people don’t like you for it. You shouldn’t live an ordinary life. Instead, live an extraordinary life. You deserve it and it’s your birthright. You only have one life to live, so live it boldly and beautifully and watch your world turn into something dynamic. You will find that the people who once loved you will now hate you because you are no longer sacrificing your life for them. They may even try to block your life from moving forward, however, you are the captain of your lifeboat and can turn the compass of your life in any direction you choose.
Always treat your life and time as valuable and when you do, you will not allow anyone to violate your time and life. If someone expects you to put your life on hold and wait for them, they appreciate where they are in their life, however, you must respect your life and keep it moving. If you want to care for someone, make sure your life is not being sacrificed. Do it because you want to and not because of empty promises, half-truths, and innuendo.
Do not give yourself up for someone else. You are just as important. So value your life and your time. If others want to be a part of your life, they must respect and value your time and life. Be busy in your life with your dreams and goals that when others come into contact with you, you will know immediately if they are with you and for you or if they are traveling in a different direction. That way, no one wastes or sacrifices time. You will begin to feel happier within yourself because you are now fulfilling your dreams and goals instead of sacrificing for others.
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