So you and your man want to have a threesome. He has talked about it, fantasized about it during sex, and now believes that he is ready to explore and experiment with another woman in his bed. Now, if only you could find that one “special” woman who is willing to get in the bag with not just one stranger, but two: you and your man.
The idea of being used as a live human dildo to arouse and add flavor to a married couple”sexual adventures” it is not the secret fantasy of many bisexual women. There’s a reason that independent and willing third party is known as a Unicorn.
The truth is, most women aren’t likely to just jump in the sack with no strange, let alone two of them at once. Most bisexual women prefer to develop at least one friendship with another woman before reaching a comfort level to pursue sexual intrigue.
There’s a name for women who get into bed with two strangers, and it’s not Bisexual…it is prostitute. If that’s all you want, eliminate the time wasted placing personal ads and the problems you’ll raise with other bisexual women. go to that street corner most cities have, or pick up the phone and make a deal with a sex worker.
Making the transition from the fantasy of a shared bedroom to the real version of a threesome is a moon jump. When you involve another woman in your sexual game, the maturity level of your own relationship is tested. If she has trust issues or can’t separate sex from love, it may be best to leave the threesome in the fantasy world of their minds.
The horror stories you’ve heard, where the whole experience was a fiasco and how the relationship fell apart completely as a result of the threesome, stem from pre-existing underlying issues in the relationship. If you have unresolved issues in your relationship, it’s better to address them first, rather than embark on a threesome. (You’d have better luck trying to salvage the relationship by having a baby; we all know that Works like a charm!)
In a real threesome, you have to stretch, grow, let go of many inhibitions, attitudes and learned beliefs and allow your man to not only desire another woman, but to orgasm because of her in front of you. If you (or he) can’t handle that, take your ball and go home now. This is not for the faint of heart. This is for big girls.
Once you’re sure your relationship can handle a threesome, remember that the other woman is a person too! She is not a “gift” to her husband or an “accessory” to her sexual playtime. Her feelings must always be considered, of course. She has less to gain and more to lose.
Realistically, what do you have to gain by making yourself vulnerable to becoming attached to a married couple, who are already committed to each other first and foremost? At best, she can aspire to be number two. Now, how many of us yearn to reach the number two position in a relationship? Isn’t number one where we want to be?
It’s frankly very creepy to approach another woman at the beginning of a relationship on the premise of sleeping with her man. She is interested in you. Most bisexual women want to sleep with another woman, not have a threesome. I know you don’t want to hear this, but save the trio talk for later, MUCH later! Think about how you would feel if it were you.
Inexperienced bisexual women are generally not ready to accept the psychological impact of a threesome. Experienced bisexual women can tell if you are genuinely interested in developing a relationship or just looking for someone to spice up your own sex life.
The real question is this: are you really interested in developing a relationship with another woman, no matter if it turns into the fantastic “threesome” of your imagination? Or do you just want to find a girl to make your man happy?
Your best strategy is to first find a girlfriend for yourself. Developing a relationship and getting to know each other personally, psychologically and sexually, if you go that far. Until she has developed a relationship, it is really inappropriate to pressure her to be interested in her man.
The attraction to your man may or may not materialize. Be realistic about your expectations of him, and above all, remember to treat others with dignity and respect. Don’t fall prey to the mythical thought that because he’s bisexual, he jumps on the bed and treats sexual escapades lightly.
If all you want is a gift for your man, you better buy one.
