Everything in life is a choice: are you choosing the best or are you choosing to see more of the negative in every situation or experience?
There are many options for every situation or problem. Some days it seems like everything is going well, people help us, event/project details fit together, results and rewards are visible. Although other days everything seems to be uphill or full of ebbs and countercurrents.
The first step is to recognize that you have an internal ‘control center’ which is vital to truly being in your unique flow. This ‘control center’ emanates from your core being: the you that you are. A highly effective core can be described as:
or Consistent
or contemplative
or Decisive
or Determined
or Focused
or introspective
or Organized
or persist
There is immense power in these characteristics to make decisions.
When people don’t choose to be the center of their choices, they often blame others for their lack of success, or berate themselves for past deeds, perceived mistakes, and old experiences, and that stops the flow of creativity and progress.
The second step is to ‘forgive’ yourself for any perceived shortcomings, misdeeds, perceived mistakes, and ancient history, none of which you can change no matter how much you berate yourself.
“Many people are afraid to forgive because they feel they must remember the evil or they will not learn from it. It is quite the opposite. Through forgiveness, the evil is released from its emotional hold on us so that we can learn from it the power and the intelligence of the heart, the release of forgiveness brings an expanded intelligence to work with the situation more effectively.” –David and Bruce MacArthur
What does this statement convey? Although holding a grudge may seem like part of human nature, it is learned behavior. Studies show that holding grudges or blaming ourselves is detrimental not only to spiritual well-being, but also to our physical health. Resentment, bitterness, hostility, anger, and fear are emotions that have specific physiological consequences: increased blood pressure, hormonal changes, arthritis, TMJ, ulcers, cancer, lupus, fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, cardiovascular disease, immunosuppression. and impaired neurological function and the list goes on. Metaphysical research reveals that all physical illness has a mental/emotional cause and that there is a metaphysical way to overcome it.
On the other side of the coin, research reveals that forgiveness reduces the stress of the unforgiving state. Researcher Charlotte vanOyen Wityliet posits that forgiveness should be built into everyone’s maturation process as a way of life, not simply as a response to specific insults. Therefore, forgiveness is part of a child’s acculturation rather than a sidebar in life. Learning to forgive should be just as important as learning to say please and thank you. “It’s a process, not a moment,” says Dr. Edward M. Hallowell, a Harvard psychiatrist and author of “Dare to Forgive.”
See articles:
Forgiveness: Ordinary Acts, Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD
http://ezinearticles.com/?Perdón—Actos-ordinarios&id=357060
Forgiveness–Benefits, Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD
http://ezinearticles.com/?Forgiveness–Benefits&id=356627
Forgiveness: The Key to Peace of Mind
http://ezinearticles.com/?Forgiveness–The-Key-to-Peace-of-Mind&id=275172
Forgiveness: Facts and Myths, Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD
Forgiveness: A Misunderstood Concept, Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD
