You may have tried following the no contact rule before and found yourself in one of two situations:
1. You missed your ex so much that you broke him up at the worst possible time.
Prayed
2. You followed him for too long until they forgot what your name is
First of all, if you are trying to win your ex back, the no contact rule should be an important part of your journey. It gives your ex time to miss you, and more importantly, it gives you time to improve yourself and your life.
If you follow it properly, you come out of the no contact period a stronger, more confident person who loves his life, and it is at this time that your ex misses you so much. Put these two together and BINGO, its 90% there.
Incorrectly following the no contact rule means a mind full of stress and depression. A month spent sitting on the couch staring at the phone, trying in vain to get the idea of your ex out of your head.
So no contact sounds simple, right? Well, it’s not, it’s not meant to be. It will be a difficult time for both you and your ex. But every day is money in the bank, so to speak. It should last for a period of about a month, and here is the key part, you must spend that month active in his life. That is something that many “experts” do not mention. Also another thing that is often left out is that it’s okay to think about your ex, it’s okay, don’t make an enemy of yourself because your mind goes back to them. If you are active eventually the time you think about them will decrease.
You follow the no contact rule to give your ex time to think about you and miss you. As humans, we always sugarcoat memories, so over time you’ll appear to them in a much better light than right after the breakup.
Time is important! A day of no contact is not the No Contact rule, it’s a day of no talking to your ex. About a month is the minimum, but do not extend it for 2 or 3 months, since it is more likely that they will continue with their lives and little by little they will forget about you.
Be active in your life! Here is the most important part, even more important than not talking to your ex. No contact for a month gives you 30 days just for you. Use it to improve yourself, or just enjoy your life. Life presents opportunities and rewards to those who leave home and interact with the world. Go out and do something just for you. Get together with old friends you may have lost touch with, or just make a habit of starting to exercise or go to the beach. Do something you love.
If you recently broke up with your ex and are thinking about the no contact rule, follow the tips above. I know you may feel like it makes sense, but act on it. It’s your relationship you’re trying to save, not mine.
No Contact is just one part of the massive journey that is getting an old flame back, you need to equip yourself with as much information as possible so that your ex doesn’t reject you!
