Do men seem to avoid you, reject you, or leave you?
You have been hurt by your boyfriend or husband and you think you will never let another man sink his hook into your heart.
This is you?
You are afraid to deeply love a man.
You are afraid of physical and emotional intimacy.
You are afraid of being vulnerable.
You are afraid to be authentic.
You are afraid to trust a man because he might hurt you like your ex did.
You drag your emotional baggage through life.
You grew up with a low sense of self-esteem. Your father was emotionally unavailable, he was hypercritical or abusive, which set the stage for your future relationships with men. You are attracted to men who do not communicate, are unfaithful, deceitful and abusive.
Your boyfriend cheated on you, lied to you and abused you psychologically and/or physically. You are resentful, angry and bitter and you put all men in a cauldron of liars, cheats and idiots.
Your husband had an affair or divorced you to be with a younger woman, compounding your already fractured self-esteem. You feel betrayed, unloved and undesirable and cheated in your best years. You are afraid that no man will want to go out with you because you focus on your wrinkles, thinning hair and weight gain of a middle-aged woman.
You want a wonderful man in your life, but your distant and unapproachable presence drives men away.
When a man shows interest in you, you keep him at a safe distance. You feel threatened and unworthy of his respect and attention, so you act out fearful, insecure, and irrational behavior.
You throw up a stone facade to protect your fragile emotions and push him away before he can push you back. Potential suitors turn away from you. Men who get involved with you walk away because it takes too much work to break down your walls of self-protection.
With each failed relationship you became more and more suspicious and wary of men.
You carry a chip the size of a rock on your shoulder. You say things like: I’m not going to take shit from a man. I do not trust in mens. I like my life, I don’t have to have a man. Yourself as capable, intelligent and self-sufficient. Men see you rigid, self-absorbed and feel that there is no place for him in your life, or they feel threatened and intimidated by your ultra-independence.
God forbid a man think you need or want a man in your life.
Unfortunately, a potential suitor will never know that you are innately compassionate, supportive, and loving because you hide your endearing traits behind an impenetrable wall of fear and mistrust.
Is this how you want to live the rest of your life? Suspicious. Saved. Only.
Trust is a decision to put faith in someone to be trustworthy.
There are NO guarantees that you will never hurt yourself again. In fact, it’s very likely that the people you love the most (but often unintentionally) are the ones who hurt you.
The trick is to learn from past mistakes.
Ask yourself these questions:
What were the warning signs that your guy was inherently deceitful, unstable, and abusive?
Was he unreliable, deceitful and blameworthy when you were dating him?
Yes?
So why did you become intimately involved with him?
What would you have done differently to avoid heartbreak from an untrustworthy partner?
Put off:
Trust your gut about questionable and unreliable behavior from a man (or anyone). Maintain boundaries with people who exhibit questionable and inconsiderate behavior and invest your trust in someone you believe to be genuine and trustworthy.
