The adolescent stage is the most feared stage of parenting. However, it is the latter and for the most part marked by irresponsibility and rebellion. Even the best parents are warned of this stage that presents itself as an inevitable battlefield for parents and their children. Fortunately, though, as a parent, if you play your cards right, this doesn’t have to be the case. With all your ideas and energy, it can be challenging as well as fun.
Understanding the stimulus behind adolescent behavior can make a difference for you. There are several changes teenagers go through as they prepare for adulthood, and although it may be several years ago, you too went through the same stage and therefore you should be able to relate to the behavior and understand the motivation; this is key. If you are willing to compromise a little, possibly adjusting to the situation by the way you react or think you could experience this terrible stage in a very positive way.
First, develop mutual trust. If your teenage son or daughter suddenly develops selective amnesia with details related to school or friends, don’t panic. Despite the monosyllabic and whispered responses, your child really wants or needs to connect with you. At times during this period you may have to step back from your parenting role and be a consultant of some kind by listening a lot, although there are some things that can be quite difficult for you to bear. Simply accept your new position paving the way for mutual trust.
There will be many things in this stage of life that will inevitably bother you and you will feel a great need to talk. However, you must be cautious in the battles you choose to fight ballast, you end up with a teenager who does not want to be in the same room with you or does not feel loved. For example, having a messy room and dying your hair purple are things that don’t really matter rather than hurting themselves or doing something that will be permanent, like getting a real tattoo.
Instead of saying flatly, “You can’t hang out with those kids,” which most of the time will backfire, you could invite these friends over for dinner. This will help you get a good idea of who they really are and advise your child accordingly without creating a gap between the two of you.
These are just a few of the few tips for improving teen parenting skills. There are endless other ways to get closer to your teenager and get through this stage without shedding a lot of blood, just be open to creative ideas.